There seem to be categories of people. I don’t like to label people and I think the categories can be fluid and will change over time (and even sometimes within a day), but most people fall into these categories:
A. People who are unwilling to see that they are responsible for creating some of the illusion of what they are seeing. They are always pointing the finger at other people, blaming other and seeing themselves as victims.
B. People who are willing to admit that they might play some role in creating their reality, but they are still more likely to point the finger at others rather than examine their role in things. They acknowledge what needs to change in the world, but think they have already arrived, and others need to do all of the changing.
C. People who are willing to admit that they play a large role in creating their reality. They do a lot of self-examination and less finger pointing. When they catch themselves pointing the finger, they are likely to apologize and correct course.
When it comes to the law of attraction, I would imagine that oftentimes those in C and those in A or B would fall together naturally, in the sense that C’s are willing to accept blame and look inward for how they can best work on themselves and heal their side of the equation. An A or a B would be very attracted to that personality because they are pointing the finger and the C accepts that blame and tries to change. The danger for the C is that they can then become resentful of all of the blame acceptance without their A and/or C friends accepting or acknowledging any part they might be playing in the dynamic.
So, while the A’s and B’s will be attracted to the C’s, the C’s will ultimately not be attracted to the A’s or the B’s. In fact, the better a C becomes at being a C, the less likely they are going to be to be attracted to A’s The B’s are more likely to suck a C in with their appearance of knowledge – they can talk the talk, so at first it seems they might be a C, but ultimately they cannot walk the walk.
On the one hand, being a C can feel isolating. It becomes less and less comfortable to be with those that cannot own their parts, and as much as a C can try to convince and educate those in the A and B groups, it usually will fall on deaf ears. The B’s and the C’s have to decide on their own to open their eyes. You cannot pry open the eyes of somebody that is determined to keep them shut. In fact, you should not try. It will frustrate you both.
On the other hand, though, when a C makes a connection with another C, it will be very satisfying and enriching. While the A’s are looking out at the world and pointing the finger at all the “others” and the B’s are perhaps pointing the finger at people who seem to threaten their safety by being different than them, the C’s are sitting comfortably in peace, not pointing any fingers. This also requires C’s to not push too hard or try to force an A or a B into a different bucket. True peace comes from accepting where people are and refocusing on what you can control. You can wish things to be different, but things are what they are. Lead by peaceful example and let them come to you naturally.
